I would like to share a little fact, or factoid if you prefer (probably not), about myself: I rather like romantic movies. I sort of just get involved with them and there are a few things which annoy me about them I will admit, poor communication, misunderstandings (oh that irritates the hell out of me!) but what sometimes really frustrates me is the kind of romantic movie where we have this formulae:
Guy A likes Girl A, for some reason Guy A has never confessed his feelings to Girl A and only realises how deep they go when Girl A starts dating/gets engaged to Guy B. Guy A thus seeks to come between Girl A and Guy B in order to confess his feelings and get with Girl A, and after about 90 minutes give or take Guy A manages to confess his feelings, Girl A reciprocates and leaves Guy B to be with Guy A.
Now that’s a very classic formulae, we can probably list three movies like that off the top of our heads and in some of those films…well..Guy B is a dick, so we feel no sympathy for him. However sometimes…Guy B is actually okay, Guy B is actually kinda sweet and lovable and I think he and Girl A would make a lovely couple but…oh wait this movie isn’t about them getting together is it because we’re all rooting for Guy A aren’t we? Well…I’m not.
See I am sure a lot of us are familiar with the movie Casablanca right? I won’t go into too much detail but what really sold me was that the lead didn’t get the girl, and he didn’t get the girl…BY CHOICE! He willingly encouraged her to go with her husband and have a better life. Now the reason I like that is he not only realised he probably wasn’t the right guy for her but he put her wellbeing and happiness above his own. See to me I think that’s a big part of what love is, it’s looking beyond your own interests. You think about what makes other people happy, and if the person you want to be with doesn’t want to be with you…well you can try and change that by adapting, people do change for the ones they love but if it’s clearly not gonna work…then I say let them be happy with someone else. I wouldn’t want them to be unhappy and alone. So with that in mind, here is a romantic movie formulae I would like to see:
Guy A likes Girl A, hasn’t confessed his feelings yet and she starts dating guy B. Girl A and Guy B get serious and get engaged, Guy A congratulates them but is secretly unhappy about this. Guy A then seeks to come between them (with the help of some friends as is often the way in these films) but the more he learns about Guy B the more he learns how happy and right he and Girl A seem to be together. At the film’s mid point Guy A realises he doesn’t want to come between them anymore because he doesn’t wanna ruin a perfectly good and happy relationship. Girl A and Guy B get married, Guy A is at the wedding and wishes them the best and is happy for them.
Bonus to the formula: Maybe Guy A starts a relationship with one of the friends whom originally tried to help him get Girl A, if you want a romantic subplot too.
See that kind of movie would really give me the feels and would make me happy, because it’s not the cliche main character gets the girl but is a deeper story about accepting the happiness of others being as or more important than your own. This makes Guy A more likable, respectable and in my opinion more admirable. It gives us an alternative to those dashing romantic male figures who always get the girl in the end (or guy, I’m open to everything). So yeah, that’s the kind of romantic movie I would love to see. If you know of such a movie let me know and I’ll look it up, thanks for reading.
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